Jul. 7th, 2009

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

For better or for worse (and yes, I'm aware of the irony of that), I am no longer married to May Paik. Everything's legal and official, and actually, took a much shorter period of time--about six weeks--than I thought it would. I suppose it helped that we'd kept everything separate, there were no children, no property to contest.

So it's done.

While I was in Boston, Jason came in and took the rest of May's things. I came back to a totally empty apartment--the only things he didn't take were my belongings in my room and the stove and fridge. It was rather depressing, on top of everything else.

Monday, my nephew Logan came over, as did Lisa, and we pulled everything out of storage and set up the apartment with my things. It's certainly less bare, a bit more homey. I was certainly glad to get my king-sized bed back--the bedroom I was in was too small for it and the things I wanted to have. Nice to be able to stretch out again.

I suppose that now, I'll be tossed back into the lottery system again. I feel a protest coming on. Does anyone else?

Jul. 3rd, 2009

Friday, July 3, 2009

For those who haven't noticed the relative quiet from my corner of the world, I've been away from Seattle since June 16th. I've been in Boston all that time and have just returned this morning. I wish I could say that it was a vacation; I wish I could say that I had a good time.

Instead, I'm stressed, I'm exhausted, I'm frustrated. I'm grieving, I'm outraged.

But mostly, I'm just coldly, bitterly furious. )

Jun. 8th, 2009

Email to Elisabeth Ritter, Monday, June 8th

Hello, Violet.

I know this is very short notice, but I'm planning to go on a hiking/camping trip this weekend with a group of people in a club for that sort of thing. Would you be at all interested in something like that? It's an easy-to-moderate hike, and we'd be camping out on Saturday evening, then on Sunday continuing to a second location. We're planning on returning to the trail head just before dark and then back to Seattle. The scenery is incredible, and well-worth the effort.

I have enough equipment and packs to outfit the both of us. All you'd need would be sturdy, comfortable clothes (you need to dress in layers, because as high as we're going, there will still be some snow on the ground) and a pair of good boots. I know that you've probably spent a good deal of time roughing it, but this is much different--this is for fun.

Give it some thought, and if you'd like to come along, let me know.

Give Cheshire a scratch behind the ears for me. *g*

Noah

Email to Jeff Novak, June 7

Jeff--

Want to go over to the batting cages? I haven't tried since I got the cast off, and it's way too nice a day to be stuck inside. If you and Grace already have plans, there's no problem, and we can do it another time.

Noah

Jun. 7th, 2009

Email to George Sunday June 7

Hello, George,

I've been talking to Sam, who's the vice-president of the hiking club. They're going to be having a trip out next weekend, the 13th-14th, leaving early Saturday and returning late Sunday afternoon. I thought of you and wondered if you'd like to go. The weather is supposed to be decent, if a bit cool--perfect for hiking.

I've dragged out my equipment, set up the tent to make sure I remembered how it went together, and aired out my sleeping bag and foam pad. Have you had time to look over your things?

Let me know if you'd be interested in going. Fresh air, beautiful countryside, food eaten around a campfire. It's practically a perfect recipe for a weekend.

Noah

Jun. 3rd, 2009

Wednesday, June 3

Well.

I've been delivered papers of divorce from May. I can't say I'm surprised.

I suppose that this means a visit to my lawyer. There was a note from her, telling me that it wasn't anything personal--and I know it wasn't--but that she had no intentions of having children at her age, nor of ending up in an adjustment center as a result of that decision. I certainly don't blame her. A woman of forty-eight should not be expected to have children. It's wholly unreasonable.

May asked that anything left in the apartment belonging to her be offered up to Jason and Jae-Mi. I have no problems doing that. These things were hers, not ours. I have furniture of my own in storage, so they're welcome to clean out everything in the apartment. I'll probably end up staying here, as the lease is for a year. It isn't a bad place, particularly. It just doesn't have the good memories of the other. But it's probably good to have a fresh start here. In the Harbor Steps apartment, I was surrounded constantly by memories of Julia. It's been a year and a half now, and maybe I should--not forget her, as I never, ever will--but begin again. You can't stay in the past forever.

I'm relieved, but strangely, not.

May. 21st, 2009

Thursday, May 21st, 4.00 pm

I got the cast off today--thank god. It was completely interesting--the physician's assistant, a very patient and pleasant young woman by the name of Miriam--cut it off using a circular-bladed saw. I was a little concerned, because well, saw and my arm are not two things that I generally want to associate together. But it was fine; she had a deft, easy touch, and the only thing I felt was a little heat where the cast was thinner in places. It stank once she got it off--six weeks without proper cleaning, with dead skin not sloughing off as normal? Well. No wonder it had itched like crazy. I looked, or rather my arm looked, like an extra in a horror movie. All the dead skin will come off in a few days with a little gentle scrubbing and application of lotion. I remembered then when my brothers John and Paul had broken limbs, and how we'd called them zombies, which, being boys, they loved. "Fear the zombie arm!"

A fiberglass cast isn't heavy, but my arm felt so light. I'm not a guy who has bulky muscles, but there was a definite difference in my arms from atrophied muscles. I got a nifty velcro brace to wear for a couple more weeks during the day. Jeff had me doing isometric exercises while casted, so the PT exercises they gave me to do to help rebuild muscles should be easier. I'll be glad to do them.

Saturday afternoon is graduation at UW. I'll be going, of course; I have students that I've gotten to know, and this is a major rite of passage for them. I'm certain that words will be spoken for all those we lost. I still miss Bannerjee, and probably always will. Even when I'm fully recovered, I'm not certain that I'll play racquetball--I associate it too much with him. Bannerjee's brother sent me a postcard, telling me the children are fine, and that the adoption is proceeding as expected. He promised at least a picture every year. That's nice.

I have all tests graded and have submitted all final marks. Thank god that's over. I have office cleanup a couple of days next week, and paperwork to finish, and then I'm free for the summer. Next year will see the last class of incoming freshmen for oh, sixteen years. I'll still be working, because they're looking at four years, and some of them will be majoring in sciences or merely taking them to fulfill requirements, but I suspect we'll be cutting back some. We've had ongoing departmental meetings to plan shifting the focus to a more adult education orientation. Only those with the least seniority need to worry about losing their jobs completely. I have enough time invested here that while I'll lose some classes, I won't lose everything. I'm still looking into the research field, but. I honestly do love teaching, and I'll probably hang on here as long as I can.

It's awfully quiet here in the apartment, just me and Spatula. I've not heard anything from May. I think that maybe I did expect something, at the very least a "hey, got here okay, don't worry" but well, whatever. I just have to assume that she is. If she's contacted Jason, he's not saying anything, but then we weren't really all that close, even after May and I married, and Jae-Mi's always on the road. I guess that if when she returns, she'll call for me to pick her up at the airport.

Jeff says that I should throw a wild party. I'm not much on the wear-a-lampshade-and-dance-on-the-table sort of party, so I think I'll pass.

The situation with Ben hasn't changed--they still won't allow anyone access to him, which makes me fear the worst. The ACLU and Amnesty International are involved and are raising a big stink, but everything's ground to a standstill. It's insane. Beyond insane, really. I feel helpless, but really, other than talk with my parents regularly and offer them support, there's not really much I can do. I might fly out to Boston to be with my dad now that school's out--we'll see.

Spatula's shedding all over me in a blatant bid for attention. I suppose I should see what he wants, other than petting.

May. 11th, 2009

Sunday, May 10th

Today was Mother's Day, and it's been something of a tradition, as the son who lives the closest, to go over and either take her out or to make dinner for her. With Dad still in Boston fighting with Adjustment Center lawyers, I went over and cooked for her. She sat at the table and we talked as I cooked--I made hummus served with warm pita bread, curried lentils over rice, and a cucumber, mint, and yogurt salad. It was good--I can back up the claim that I'm a decent cook.

Mom's worried about Ben--they will absolutely not let anyone speak with him while he's "in treatment" because that would be "detrimental to his treatment course." Jesus. I can't even imagine what they're doing to him, to Kayla in there. I can't imagine Ben cooperating in the slightest. I hope that when they finally let him go he'll be someone I recognize. I'm not so sure he will be, though.

Dad's pulled in the ACLU, though I'm not sure if they can help either. I suggested Amnesty International as well--it certainly can't hurt, and yes, this is a major violation of his human rights. But the harder they push, the harder the government pushes back. It's like watching big horn sheep go at it. I suspect they've decided to make an example of him, because how much simpler and cheaper would it have been to just cut him loose from Kayla, let him go on his way? They're spending major money on this. I'm just--I don't know what to think. I don't think it's going to have any sort of a good ending for anyone, especially Ben.

May and I are...May and I. Since the bombing, she's been quieter, but whether it's thoughtfulness or depression, I'm not sure. We don't talk all that much beyond superficialities, which is as much my fault as it is hers. There's no bad guy amongst the two of us; we're just two people who've been forced together against our wills, no different from other couples. While most come to some sort of agreement or arrangement in regard to having children, we simply haven't. Or rather we have: there will be none. We've been married three months now, and in a couple more, the questions as to why she's not pregnant will begin. And then I suspect, I'll find out first-hand just what Ben's going through, because even if pressured and coerced to "perform my conjugal duties," I won't force myself on her when she's unwilling. That's just--no. Absolutely not. I have a lot of things that spin through my head at night, and that's just one of them.

She's been talking about her parents recently, so I wasn't terribly surprised when she told me she wanted to visit them. They're old, and her father is not in the best of health. When I got home from mom's, May had bought a ticket and was packing a couple of suitcases. There were a couple of heavy boxes as well by the door. I asked, and she said they were presents for members of her family. I looked from the boxes to May, but she has an absolute poker face, and gives nothing away. We looked at one another for a minute, then I nodded. Presents.

I'm not asking anything else. If asked, I can honestly say that's what she told me. I don't need to mention that she's mailed off a couple of boxes a month since we've been married. I'm going to assume that she has a really generous nature.

I'll drive her to the airport tomorrow, help her arrange for shipping for her boxes, put her on the plane. We kept all our personal and financial business separate, but if she hasn't cleaned out everything to the last penny, I'll be surprised. I never knew her very well, but one thing I did know was that she was organized and efficient and patient. No detail would have escaped her attention. Not that she's been planning anything other than a trip to visit her parents, that is.

Apr. 23rd, 2009

Wednesday, April 22nd, 6.00am



In light of recent happenings, most people will shrug it off, but today, Wednesday April 22nd, is Earth Day.

As an environmentalist, I'm somewhat torn by Earth Day. Yes, I recognize that it brings public awareness to problems that directly affects us all, but I'm also practical enough to know that while the changes the public can make--recycling, living green--can make a difference, it is still a very small impact, miniscule given the imprint of modern man's technological footprint on the Earth. Real change is in the hands of huge corporations, who are not inclined to change unless it positively affects their profit margins.

But still, small changes are better than no changes, and if some small thing makes more people aware of the big changes, then it's not effort wasted.

For many years now I've been involved in numerous environmental projects, including those focused on Earth Day. Generally I get word out for Earth Day activities earlier than this, but with injuries and with the effort of getting the situation squared away in our department with the losses of Drs. Bannerjee and Saramolke, I'm a little late. Better late than never, though.

Here is a short list of activities in and around Seattle, courtesy of the Seattle P-I, complete with many useful links.

Here is a program for the 2009 UW Earth Fair. It's worth a stop; they usually have interesting exhibits and a relaxed, festive atmosphere.

Here is another list of links to activities and links to general information.

And finally, here is a very short history of Earth Day and a couple of links to volunteer opportunities for the day.

Normally I'd type out all this information by hand, but typing is still a little iffy for me, so bear with the linkage. *g*

I'll be in class most of the morning, but after that, I'll be at the UW Botanical Gardens, giving a sort of mini-lecture on the environment and our responsibilities for it. You're welcome to come by and be bored, but try to refrain from throwing things at me--I'm not as agile as I usually am, and there's no sport in it for you. *g*

Apr. 21st, 2009

Tuesday, April 21st Email to Jeff Novak

Jeff--

I think I'm going to climb the walls, not being able to run or swim or do much of anything physical. I would not do well in confinement, I can see that right now. I'm frustrated as hell at the limitations. The pain I can deal with, but not being able to do things that I did before so easily? My mother would say that it's vexing. Personally, I'd say it's a gigantic pain in the ass.

Anyway, we're back to school. Working with everyone in the department, we've redistributed Bannerjee's students and classes amongst ourselves. For the duration, we're working more and larger classes, and things are stressed and crowded. Bannerjee's students are upset--he was a good instructor, and popular. I can't blame them for being disturbed at his loss and at the upheaval. But we'll all get through it.

Sunday I met one of the new instructors, Jay Daniels. Nice guy. Australian, with a great accent, new to the city. I showed him around campus yesterday. Anyway, he's looking for someone to run daily with. Since I can't, so would you be interested? Looks like he might give you a run for your money. *g*

How are you and Grace doing? It was good to see you both while I was in the hospital. The plant you gave me seems pretty happy on my bedroom windowsill. May liked the one you gave her, as well. She's getting around with a big brace on her leg and crutches. It looks like an advertisement for a rehab facility here, with crutches and braces and casts and slings. But we're slowly getting better.

Back to work. Let me know if you'd like to meet Jay and run with him.

Noah, the cranky

Apr. 16th, 2009

Thursday, April 16

I was at the Westin-Bellevue last week. I'm one of the lucky ones. I got out with a broken arm, some cracked ribs, a dislocated shoulder, a black eye, and enough glass in me for seventeen windows. May was also lucky--a dislocated knee, smoke inhalation, lacerations from glass. All things considered, we were very fortunate.

My colleagues were not so fortunate. Dr. Bannerjee was killed, along with his wife, Nalini. They leave behind two infants under the age of a year. I've been to their apartment many times, have eaten with them, have held their children, have considered them friends. Bannerjee--for some reason, we never called one another by our first names--and I played racqetball twice a week. And now they're gone. Their children will be raised by Bannerjee's brother, Naresh, and his family, who live in Spokane.

Bannerjee's first name was Mahesh. It seems somehow important to mention that.

Dr. Foreman has a broken leg, and Dean Alcott lost an eye. There were others from different departments, people I didn't know personally, and they've suffered and died as well.

And for what? I don't even know.

I've always been of a liberal bent; my brothers and I were raised that way. While I didn't actively support House of Spades, I appreciated their willingness to be out there, to take on the system, always with a sense of humor.

It's not so humorous, now. People have been hurt, people have died. In all honesty, I could not connect them with either the serum contamination or with the bombing, because it seemed so out of character--it just didn't match with their previous actions. A large number of the attendees of the gala were university faculty and staff, and we've always tended toward the liberal in our opinions. It doesn't make sense to hurt those who are more inclined to view your actions with leniency, if not favor.

However, the recent shooting makes me wonder if I was wrong about such suppositions. Unlike the bombing, this was very straight-forward, unmuddied by supposition. He did shoot those people. Whether he did the bombing and the serum, or whether those were tailored by others to look like House of Spades activities, I'm not sure. While recovering, I've had a lot of time to think, and even so, I can't draw any clear conclusions.

My thoughts and sympathies are with those who were injured and who lost family and friends. Of that much, I'm sure. May and I are back to work. I'm currently in my office, swearing at the keyboard because it's damn hard to type with one cut up hand and the other in a cast to my knuckles. It will get better, I know, but I have to backspace and correct typos about every ten words. Annoying.

I remember getting a phone call--that was why I was in the lobby. I was going outside to get better reception. When I woke up in the hospital, my mother was there, but not my father. It seems that the government got tired of Ben, and put him in an adjustment center. My dad is there in Boston with lawyers trying to get him out before they do him irreparable harm. They have Kayla, his wife, as well, and they're attempting to force conjugal visits. Neither of them are cooperative, and honestly, I don't know how they'll get them to comply. I'm pretty sure I don't want to know. I want them out, untouched, but I'm not sure how that's going to happen. They have enough lawyers between the two of them for a sea of litigation. But god only knows what the government is doing to them while they have them. I'm worried. Mom's convinced I'm not dying now, and she's flying back out to Boston later today.

I have ten minutes before class begins. I suppose that I should begin the trek there, since it takes me a bit longer to get anywhere.

Mar. 26th, 2009

Thursday, March 26

Earth Day isn't for another month--April 22nd, to be exact--but there's a lot that can be done before then. It's traditional to plant trees on Earth Day, but Seattle reLeaf is an organization that does that several times a year. A portion of their work is done in the city, planting trees in parks and neighborhoods alike.

This weekend--the 28th and 29th--is one of their planting sessions. I won't be around for Saturday, as I've promised time to the greenhouse and the Titan Arum exhibition--but Sunday, I plan to work with them.

If anyone would like to join me for fresh air and hard work in making the city greener, I will buy you lunch in return. It's a chance to make the city a little better, to meet new people, and hey, free food, which is always a good thing. *g*

If you're interested, reply, and we'll set something up.

Wednesday, March 25

I'm going to invite everyone to the UW Botanical Gardens for an event that takes place only every three years, and that only if you're very, very, very lucky. What is this event, you ask? Why, it's the blooming of amorphophallus titanum, or the Titan Arum.

Better known as the Carrion Flower.

It earns that name honestly. It smells like...hmm. Imagine if you can a mix of skunk, rotting flesh, and raw sewage. That comes fairly close. Sounds awful, but literally thousands of people will come to...experience the Titan Arum. And titan it is--it's nearly ten feet tall now, and when it opens, it'll be about four feet wide. The tuber root is nearly two hundred pounds. The plant is extremely rare, originating in Sumatra, and it's only bloomed in the US twelve or thirteen times since 1937, which was the first time. So, it actually is a big deal in the botanical world. The bloom will last only two days, and then it will be another three years, if that, before it blooms again.

Dr. Bailey is in charge of it, and she's practically doing handsprings in excitement, which is something no one at all wants to see. I don't think she's left the greenhouse since it started showing signs of blooming. It's been here for many, many years without blooming, and she has babied it like I've never seen anyone do before. Guess it was worth it if it blooms.

The website should give info when it does bloom--I think they're expecting it to happen sometime this weekend. Come and visit, and bring a date. Should be...bracing.

Titan Arums are rare enough to be named like pets. I think Bailey calls this one Audrey.

*G*

Feb. 22nd, 2009

Saturday, February 21st, evening

This past week I've alternated between packing and working on my paper. Today, as per government requirements, I spent moving. Logan, Julia's nephew, gave me a hand with the grunt work, and I paid him fifty bucks and bought him enough pizza and Coke to feed a mid-sized city. I'd forgotten how much teenage boys can eat. But it was worth it for the help.

Changes )

Feb. 9th, 2009

Email to Jeff Novak, Monday, February 9th

I owe you one rippingly drunk evening, as promised.

Email to May Paik Monday, February 9th

May Paik,

My name is Noah Browning. As you are most likely by now aware, I've been matched with you in the last lottery drawing. I'd like to meet with you at your convenience to discuss this. Would you care to meet me at Giardino Fresco? It's an Italian restaurant on Bower street. How does eight tonight sound? If this is not suitable, we can reschedule to your convenience. I'm looking forward to meeting you.

Noah Browning

Feb. 7th, 2009

Saturday, February 7

It's been a busy week. I'm glad it's the weekend, though I have some work on a paper I need to do. Ah, academia. Publish or perish.

Last weekend I had dinner with my parents. My brother Paul, his wife Lizzie (call her that to her face, and you'll be very sorry), and their two sons, Paul III, whom we call Trey, and their youngest son, Josh were here visiting from Phoenix. I haven't seen them for a while--close to seven months--and it was good to see them. They'd just found out Lizzie's pregnant before they flew up, and god, is she sick. She said it was like having morning sickness 24/7. This accelerated pregnancy business looks miserable. I do feel for her.

Trey's a year away from completing pre-law, and has been picked in the lottery in Phoenix. His partner is named Carrie. She's an ER doctor in one of the big hospitals there. Carrie's thirty-six, and has a son who's seventeen. I'm not sure how that's going to work out. Trey likes Carrie--he says that she's ferociously intelligent, which he respects--but Jacob, Carrie's son, is...less than welcoming of the idea that Trey's only three years his senior. I wish them the best of luck. It'll take a lot of adjustment for everyone concerned.

Josh is going to attend UW in the fall, which makes me happy. He'll be moving here in a couple of months to establish residency. Bakersfield Gardens and Nursery has offered him part-time work, and he'll be staying for a while with my parents until he gets established.

Ben, my brother who lives in Boston and is fighting his marriage? Jesus, what a mess. Lawyers everywhere, suits and counter-suits and threats to send him for re-education if he doesn't comply. Kayla's suing because she had been engaged to be married prior to her marriage to Ben, and she hates him. He hates her on general principle, and they both hate the government for forcing them into it. It's ugly, really ugly, and no one is backing down an inch. I'm just waiting for a call from mom saying he's been hauled away to a re-education center and electo-shocked until he doesn't have enough brains left to remember his name, let alone fight them. I can see that happening, so easily. It scares the hell out of me for his sake.

Has anyone heard anything about the incident with the three people of the last lottery? I haven't heard too much about it, but admittedly, I've had my attention on my paper this past week, and haven't caught much (translate that as any) news on the subject. I wondered if it was just me spending so much time in the library and the labs, or if things are quiet on the subject. I can't imagine that they would be.

Also, I haven't seen Dan's blog. He's normally so vocal and to have him silent is...worrying. Does anyone know anything?

Today's errand day. Last Saturday, I ran into Julia's doctor. It made me a little melancholic, but not crushingly depressed, which I'm taking as a good sign. I'm not sure I could've said that six months ago. Life really does go on, and we really do mend, though some of us are a little slower in the process than others.

I think I'll make meatloaf tonight for supper. Yes, my life is just that exciting. *g*

Jan. 26th, 2009

Ah, Sunday

Sunday is my favorite day of the week. I think that most people, if asked, would say Friday, because it marks the end of the work week. Not me.

Saturday is for errands and finishing up things left from the week, for grading papers, working at the Botanical Gardens--whatever needs doing, Saturday's the day for it. I always have things to do, but it's seldom terribly busy for me, and I do take the time to enjoy myself--generally, I have a meal out, and yes, Jeff, it's usually healthy. *g*

Sunday is me day. It's the only day I don't run, but instead sleep in as late as I like. Then there's lox on a bagel while reading the paper in bed and doing the crossword, with Spatula draped across my knees and begging, oh please, just *one* bite, you never feed me, I'm starving to death, omg.

At some point I bike down to the park and hit softballs in the batting cages. I've been doing that for eleventy-hundred years (as my grandmother would say), and I still enjoy it. When I get tired of hitting softballs, I usually bike around until I come onto something I want to do.

Today, I went for the Cheeseburger of DOOOOOOM. Riley's Bar has the best, and it didn't disappoint. Ten thousand calories, and worth every single one.

After that, I decided to visit Julia's parents. They're good people, and we've always gotten along well. Beth, Julia's sister, was there, and we don't relate well--she thinks I'm an elitist bastard, I think she's a condescending bitch, and we're both probably right to some degree--but we managed a modicum of civility for the sake of the parents. I like Beth's son, Logan, and we played video games for a while. He won, of course, but I cheerfully delude myself by thinking I made him work for it.

I'd planned on seeing a movie that has an excessive amount of gratuitous violence and explosions, but instead ended up watching A Hard Day's Night. Yes, the Beatles movie in black and white. It's such a feel-good movie, and even better on the big screen. I think sometime in the next couple of months the theater's going to be showing Help!, and I'll most likely go, because oh yes, I am a huge nerd.

I didn't see the lottery results until I got home just a few moments ago. Well, well. I was relieved I wasn't on it, but wow, what a mess. I'll be watching with interest to see how they get themselves out of this.

Jan. 22nd, 2009

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Jan. 17th, 2009

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